Why Do We Like To Hurt So Much?
My LSS is still "That’s What You Get" by Paramore, hence the title of this post is a line from that song.
I’m
not hurting as much as I’ve been since last, last Saturday, but I am
seeing a lot of people who are hurting and/or confused. It’s difficult
to give advice to hurt and confused people when you yourself are just
getting over the hurt and confusion. But let this piece be a
comment/reply on all the blog posts about losing someone/being stupid
because of loving someone/fighting for someone you love that I’ve read.
We
do stupid things because of love, so people who don’t want to do
something stupid avoid love or at least avoid talking about love or
their feelings so that they don’t have to let other people know that
they themselves had done foolish acts. We all have a story to tell.
Just these past few days, I have read a lot about those stories. I
don’t know if I’ll be happy because I am not alone or if I’ll be sad
because we’re too many.
A friend of mine posted a collection of quotes about the ironies and pains of love.
A lot of them are very true, even though you wish they weren’t. I’ve
collected a lot of sayings about that topic along my journey in life.
I’ve even created some of my own…
Anyway, so here is more
verbal diarrhea on my thoughts on this topic… This is for people who
lost someone they love or have unrequited love…
First, as I’ve
said to Nats, just because you love someone, it doesn’t mean you have
to be with them… And he’s reply to me was "totoong hindi kailangang kayo o
mahal ka rin niya para mahalin ang isang tao… basta kapag nalilito ka
na at hindi mo na alam, iinom mo na lang ng… BEER." Sometimes it may
call for a San Mig Light and for heavier issues, STRONG ICE. Hehe…
Anyway, kidding aside…
As
I’ve said before, I hate the phrase "you deserve someone better" even
if it’s very, very, very true. You won’t be able to see the worth of
that phrase when you are in love with someone who doesn’t deserve you
because the point of loving anyway is giving love unconditionally. You
don’t require the person you love to be something in order for you to
love him/her. You don’t require that person to be someone who deserves
you before you give your heart to him/her. I don’t use the phrase "you
deserve someone better" to my friends because I know what it feels when
you hear it. It’s just like "I told you so" which is a phrase that I
know a lot of us, if not all, doesn’t want to hear.
But as
dreadful as "you deserve someone better" is to hear, we should be open
to the fact that there really is someone out there, other than the
person whom we love and had hurt us, that we can love and maybe even
love us back. Yes, we can’t chose someone we love, but it doesn’t mean
we cannot love again.
I love Lara Fabian’s song "I Will Love
Again" because it’s true. As long as our heart is beating we can love
again. As the song puts it, "even if it takes a life time, I will love
again." Yes, it’s difficult, really difficult, and it may take a long
time but it can happen. We just have to be open.
You don’t stop
loving a person just because the person has stopped loving you or
because he/she cannot love you in the way you want him/her to, but
you’ll be able to love someone else more. Feelings don’t die (even if
most people say they do) but they only fade or move into the back to
give room for new feelings. The process takes time and hurts a lot, but
you’ll live through it. ^^;
So, as Ate C always tell us, "let go and let God".
Cheers to happiness! (we’ll eventually get it ^^;)
